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A lot has been said about how to prevent rape.
Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts. Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended. Fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all.


instead of that bullshit, how about:

if a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
if a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
if a women is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
if a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
if a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.
if a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
if a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
if a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
if a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.

if a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
if your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
if your step-daughter is watching tv, don't rape her.
if you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
if your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.

if your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
if your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.

tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it's not okay to rape someone.

don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape.
don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x.
don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.
don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

Repost if you agree.

Date: 2005-12-12 04:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] blue-star-risin.livejournal.com
I agree but whether the rock hits the pitcher or the pitcher hits the rock it's still bad for the pitcher.

That is why I think all women should learn Krav Maga or some basic self-defense and avoid obviously dangerous situations.

Date: 2005-12-13 02:51 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] quikslvr.livejournal.com
Yeah: that's why I know what little jiu-jitsu I do. But I agree with the spirit of the thing, that's all.

Date: 2005-12-12 09:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fornikate.livejournal.com
I dislike the tone of this at the beginning, I've seen it around and it bothers me.
Women should learn self-defense. Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended.
Those two things are FAR from bullshit and it angers me that they are included with such ridiculous statements as the others. Those two things should be practiced by EVERY woman.

Date: 2005-12-13 02:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] quikslvr.livejournal.com
Obviously, it's not perfect. But I agree with the spirit of the thing. It shouldn't be the case that we're any more victims than any other gender. Ideally, no one should be victims of that at all.

But of course I practice the things you list above. I'm not stupid. It would still be nice to know/practice those things and not need to.

But long hair? Short skirts? Never getting drunk anywhere but behind your own locked door, with no one with you? That fucking sucks.

Date: 2005-12-13 03:34 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] fornikate.livejournal.com
Well yeah, that is total crap but what I'm saying is that those things I bolded shouldn't be derided.

Date: 2005-12-12 11:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] beeporama.livejournal.com
Someone suggested replacing "woman" with "person" in this. I hope it goes without saying that I agree either way.

Date: 2005-12-13 02:56 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] quikslvr.livejournal.com
Yup, I've heard that one. I know this is imperfect, but didn't want to rewrite it, since that would change the whole point of "repost"ing it. Nor do I really expect anyone to do so (even if I know they agree), but you know how these memes try to replicate themselves.

I do agree with it in spirit, if not in exact phrase throughout, which is why I did want to spread it farther.

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